How often should I call my relatives to keep ties with them?
Thank you so much for your question. The issue of staying in contact with your relatives in order to maintain ties with them is extremely important in Islam. God the Almighty has called relatives (Rahim) which is a derivative from His beautiful name (Rahman) and this indicates the importance of keeping in touch with our relatives.
When it comes to the frequency of calling or visiting relatives in order to maintain ties with them, this depends on the level of kinship and the customs and traditions of the society you live in. In other words, regular calls and visits to maternal and paternal uncles and aunts take priority over maintaining ties with cousins. By the same token, calling and visiting cousins are more essential than contact with second cousins and so on and so forth. In the paradigm of kinship fathers, mothers, and siblings take priority of one’s care, love and regular phone calls and visits. Then comes the next of kin. It is also important to maintain regular ties where you call those of kinship on a monthly basis and pay them visits on the different social and religious occasions. If you are unable to visit them in person then a phone call should do. The most important thing is not to sever ties with your relatives.
Some cases occur where some relatives are the ones who sever ties with us and they don’t want to have anything to do with us. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) encourages us to maintain ties with those who are eager to sever ties with us as he states, “The one who keeps ties in reciprocity is not like the one who keeps ties with those who want to sever them.” This means that the reward for contacting relatives who lack the desire of keeping contact with us is immense in God’s sight. Therefore, maintaining kinship ties is one of the rewardable and highly praised acts in Islam.